Wednesday, February 23, 2011

I Want It All! What Do You Mean I Can't Have It?!


Road Trip Wednesday is a "Blog Carnival," where YA Highway's contributors post a weekly writing- or reading-related question and answer it on their own blogs. You can hop from destination to destination and get everybody's unique take on the topic.


This Week's Topic is super interactive:

What do you want to know about writing and getting published?





I don't know if my question is specifically about your writing, fellow bloggers, but it pertains to my writing world. Here goes...

Many writers hold down full-time jobs, many have children, husbands, a gazillion things going on... in other words, we all have busy, busy lives. How do YOU juggle? How do you stay true to your family, work, do everything else you need to do, yet still find time to write?

This is something I've been struggling with lately (have you seen my last couple of posts?!). Usually I'm fantabs at keeping a to-do list, keeping it reasonable, and checking most of it off by day's end. Lately, there's been a lot going on. I want to be a good parent. I want to be a good teacher. I want to be there for my family, my friends, my writing peeps, my dance friends... and usually the first thing to migrate to the back burner - the writing. I know it's a storm we all weather. I also know it will pass. But when writing is the sanity to my daily craze, well, I guess you can imagine I've been experiencing the perpetual funk lately.

So how do you do it, fellow writers? How do you juggle life and still manage to have it all?

PS - the other day I posted my first crusader challenge (hehe). The lie - I do have OCD, but I wear black EVERY day - it's not OCD dictated. Thanks for participating!

26 comments:

  1. I wonder about this, too. Luckily, my husband was willing to let me quit my job to write full-time, but straight up, I know there's no way I'd have written a book if he hadn't allowed me day after day of time to write. If I had a full-time job, there's no way I would've gotten it done, so I admire people like you, Alison, who seem to do it all!

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  2. Lunch breaks, before bed and on the weekends ^^ Basically, if there's an empty moment, I write. And I always carry a little notebook and pen in case I get caught out somewhere and don't have my main notebook.

    Nice question ^_^ Happy writing!

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  3. I basically... don't. Some days I am good at some things, and other days I'm good at the rest. It honestly depends on where I am in the writing process.

    I am still working on prioritizing "to do list time," where I burn through boring but necessary things like paying bills. YAWN, who wants to do that??

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  4. I want answers to this question, too! I have a full-time job and the occasional freelance writing gig and attempt to have a life etc., so I constantly struggle to find time to write.
    What works for me is setting small or incremental goals--like how many words I want to write in a weekend, or where I want to be in my revisions at the end of the month. I don't quite make my goals often, but having set them gets me close, at least.

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  5. I don't juggle. I can't do it. So this is an awesome question.

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  6. O.o... I can't juggle. I think I fail this question.

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  7. I do need dedicated time, so my juggling ends up being on a day-to-day basis, not an hourly one. My long course papers get 1-2 days, in which I do absolutely nothing else; my YA writing gets the days that I decide specifically to not do anything Russian-related. But that also means I have to take many days off from the YA grind in order to get school things done. Still, I am lucky, because school lets me be that flexible, and I don't have family/friends/significant others around my living space to distract me.

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  8. I'm very bad at this! I have a tendency of letting things get away with me. As a result, I spend a lot of time not touching my writing and then suddenly coming back to it.

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  9. It IS a lot to juggle! I find if I allow myself flexibility (rather than pushing myself to do everything--which is impossible anyway), then I'm much happier and get a lot more done. ;)

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  10. I don't balance/juggle things very well. At all.

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  11. The juggle is constant. I have to make time for writing, without leaving other things out. i watch less TV and try to write at night.

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  12. I'm still learning this too. Convincing yourself that writing is equally important as your other tasks is the first battle, for sure. I really liked what this post had to say about it.

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  13. Great question!

    I feel lucky to be a stay-at-home mom, so while I don't exactly have tons of time to write, I don't have the stresses of an outside job in addition to family/house stuff.

    My husband is in the Army and is out of town a lot. Because of that, I try to be really present for my daughter, so most of my writing time comes at night. I've learned to sacrifice sleep and TV for reading and writing and honestly, I feel happier and more well-rounded because of it.

    Good luck juggling, and know you're not alone!

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  14. I'm with Sarah E. I don't do it well. I think my method consists of letting something fall to the wayside until you have to go back to it so it's like this never-ending cycle of catching up. I gues it works though...

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  15. Hmm.. even when I have heaps of time I'm always getting distracted from my writing. I hope you manage to get back on top of the to do list and have time for you writing :)

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  16. When you're an author on top of everything else, life becomes chaos. I've found that eventually, that chaos becomes the balance...

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  17. I struggle with this everyday. My solution is to balance. I can't write ever day, I can't be supermom every day, I can't be a super blogger every day, I just can't. So I schedule. I try to block out two nights a week to write, because that always get's pushed to the back burner...and that's the whole reason we all have these blogs. Because we want to be an published author's right?

    I blog in the mornings until my kids can't stand it anymore...then I stop. Sometimes I'll do a little more in the afternoon, but it hardly ever happens.

    I'm at home with four kids, so they take up the rest of my day. The other five nights that I'm not writing are spent catching up on laundry and time with the hubs.

    And even with this schedule, I get overwhelmed every day. Thanks for the post :)

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  18. I'm no expert, but I love learning little tips. Two things I did this week to save me time are: 1- signed up for a faster internet service. Good move. Check and see if for $5 a month, you can get quicker service. My provider did it for me. 2- Email sucks so much time. I learned that if I have a short email, I can write my whole message in the subject line and then write EOM (end of message) at the end of it. This saves me time and the other person reading it time. This is a great question. BTW, thanks for stopping by my blog a few days ago. I'm your newest follower now. :)

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  19. Yay! I'm glad to have found your blog. Both erica and I are also wives, moms, teachers, writers and bloggers! I DON'T juggle it well at all! Lately my blogging duties have suffered. I haven't hopped for a long time. (Until tonight.) I find that I always have to focus on one extra (the family and teaching always get top priority) so blog posting, blog hopping, or writing take turns. Probably not the best solution. I'll keep trying! Best of luck to you! christy

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  20. I quite agree about getting the balance. It's not easy and don't get it right all the time. I go from spending too much time blogging to too little, etc. Getting enough time to write is impossible, as I'd like to be writing all my awake hours :-)

    Good to meet you, crusader.

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  21. I haven't figured out how to manage it all. I go in cycles where I feel like I'm in control, then things get away from me and I get stressed out. Eventually I either accomplish all my tasks or re-evaluate and drop some things. Then I think all is well until the cycle starts again.

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  22. Hi! Juggling things is such a mom thing, isn't it? I think by nature I just add my writing to the "Mom balls" that I've constantly got in the air. (Yes, I see the humor in that phrase) I often wonder though if I'd be as successful if I were less busy. I think I may work better under pressure.

    Or not. Nice to meet you, fellow crusader.

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  23. I thrive with stress and insanity. :) Don't know why, it is who I am. Great job on the challenge. I stopped in to check in with a blog group buddy.

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  24. Crusader dropping by... I couldn't do it. I need to work on one thing at a time or everything comes out lopsided!

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  25. It's all about balance. Equal time writing. Equal time blogging. Equal time home life. Now that is easier said than done. There are many, many times that I feel as though either my writing is suffering because I'm living life and trying to manage "life duties" or my family is suffering because, as my children say, "You're always on the computer." I'm a stay at home mom with oodles of free time, but I get distracted easily (reading emails, facebook, twitter, blogs). I think the life of a writer/mother/wife is hard to balance and juggle no matter what. We simply do our best and pray everything will turn out okay.

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  26. I really don't think I've solved this one yet. But to get my book finished, I frequently sacrificed sleep, and I put writing ahead of household chores! So my sink pretty much looked like a bomb had hit it most days...but the book got done.

    Right now...sigh. My sink is spotless and my WIP is languishing. Can't win 'em all!

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